Thoughts & Feelings # 1

Transparent drops plunged greenery 
A Gentle breeze kicked the leaf aside
Heedless runs trying to get a grip
Dripped evenly swiftly down
Waked me with a small single touch  
Patted surface nothing found after

   - Droplets on the leaf 

©️Athira2020 All rights reserved

For a better relationship

I grabbed all those points by my own personal positive and negative experience.I won’t say that mine is perfect, definitely there are many drawbacks not only for me for everyone in this world. A relationship became perfect once they avoid the rules and regulations and free up the minds.

LOVE COVER UP MULTITUDE OF SINS, NOTHING BEYOND LOVE. If true love is there, everything follows eventually.No special preparation needed, no need to be careful in your relationship, just open up everything to each other.

I would be glad, if you share some more points from your own experience.

1) Pay attention to your partner's opinions
2) Ask and share questions openly rather assumptions.
3) Be a supporter and motivator for each other.
4) Equality , avoid gender discrimination
5) Don't store any doubts, speak up openly
6) Use WE instead of I
7) Proper communications
8)Avoid misunderstanding through conversations
9) Apologize quickly
10)Take away ego, pride and Jealousy
11) Honor each other
12) While fighting,take initiative to resolve
13) Share your feelings and emotions
14) Share when you're feeling down
15)Avoid hidden thoughts instead open up thoroughly
16)Love each other the most
17)Reduce the expectations otherwise it will become an investment.
18) Avoid privacy conversation with others, discuss everything with eachother.
19) No boundaries
20) Frankness
21) Reduce formalities
22) Accept just the way he / she is ...and accept good suggestions for self development.
23) Compromise each other
24) Never pull anyone to your relationship.
25) Go for a walk, share the interests, outdoor activities and entertainments
26) Be good friends
27) Avoid inferiority and superiority complex
28) If your partner is ready to listen, never bring the fights in front of others.
29) Reduce arguments.
30) Spend more time with èach other.
31) Taking up responsibilities equally
32) Never split work for husband and wife.
33) Accept each ones weakness and compensate each other.
34) Maintain strong bond
35) Give confidence to each other, never discourage.
36) Share your bad thoughts, troubles everything.
37) Enjoy every love quarrels, small and beautiful moments of togetherness
38) Accept the mistakes and share with each other.
39) Discuss your memories, past, future,
ambitions, dreams, strength and weaknesses
40)Faith, trust and understanding- Love keeps no record of wrongs.


©️ Athira Aparna


	

Evlin # 5 – A real life experience

Part 5 – The END

As you all knew, Evlin is not staying with her husband now.She wants to live with her husband happily but can’t stay in that home anymore.She asked her husband to stay together in another home but he is not ready to leave that home and wants to stay with his parents.

He and his parents visited Evlin. Her husband asked only one question” Are you wiling to come and stay with us ” Both of them wants to talk each other but never happened on that time. Evlin tried her maximum to talk with her husband and he had some interest to talk with her and entered to Evlin’s house but on that moment , his mother forcefully pulled him back and without any hesitation, he returned . Evlin responded ” I’m not ready to stay at that home but I want you in my life”.

They left silently.

Evlin is not contacting him now since all her calls seems to be disturbance and quarrelsome.Now no phone calls,messages, no contacts..As per the opinion of his mother,she is a liar for them. But God is great, of course one day all the truth will come out.Where this life moving?

Why he is not willing to lead a life with her away from that home? Why he is not making any calls or messages to her?? Inspite of all facts for whom she is waiting now?? Does true love still exists ???

Evlin waits for him till death…

Will they meet again!

I guess most probably this maybe the last post related with Evlin. I wish both of them to lead a happily married life.

With lots of prayers
©️Athira Praveen 

The Liebster Award🎖

First of all, I would like to share my sincere gratitude to almighty who made me to start this blog. I also like to share my thanks to Soni’s thoughts https://sonibindaas571181659.wordpress.com/ one who nominated me for this award. I also welcome all of you to visit her blog.

Soni’s rapid fire round😊

1) At what time you love the most to write and why?

There is no particular time for me to write. I always wish to do 24*7 if possible.

2)When did you first start your writings?

If the question regarding with my blogging – it was on 10th March 2019 @ 6:28 PM. Apart from blogging I used to write from my schooling.

3)Do you love reading books? which are your fav books?

Yes, I loved reading but right now I’m little bit away from the habit. It’s difficult to point out books but still I will mention some from my memory – Pride and Prejudice, Jane Eyre, Macbeth, Malgudi days and so on…

4)Do you have any suggestions for other beginner bloggers?

Try to write from your heart than mind.

5)What was your aim when you were a kid and did it change with time or still same?

Becoming a good human being.I hope so

6)Whats your passion and why?

I loves everything I do and do everything I loves. I’m very much passionate to all things I do.

7)What are your tips for a good and fit health?

It’s completely depends upon each person body language and their standard of living. I suggest to eat homely food maximum or if its not possible prefer healthy foods and avoid junk foods. Drink water sufficiently, natural products for skin care routine,focus of hygiene,dancing / yoga / walking are the mantras for fitness. Based on the current situation- wash all vegetables with vinegar,salt and turmeric powder. Wash your hands with sanitizers after the public contacts, use masks : cover your nose and mouth together with mask, I noticed many covers their mouth only 🙂 Moreover try to avoid maximum public contacts now.

8)Do you advise for Gym or home workout?

I don’t prefer advise to anyone rather suggestions. It’s completely depends upon the personal choice of life style.

9)If you would not be a blogger, then what other activity you would have been into?

Now also I continue all my other activities along with my blogging, so if I would not be a blogger… I will continue others the same way.

10)Who do you get ideas to write posts?

My writings based on my faith, experience and surroundings. From myself.

11)Do you keep any expectations to be famous when writing something or just prefer to write your heart out and leave everything on others to judge??

I never wish to receive any rewards or recognition in my life, As I mentioned before, I write everything from my heart and never focused on judgement and I’m no one to judge anyone.In my entire writings, the post EVLIN was the one I felt to share it with everyone.I’m writings its for my friend.

I personally don’t wish to nominate any particular blog-mate instead I wish to nominate all my fellow bloggers together.

My Questions to all my fellow bloggers

  1. Rate your writings out of five and with reason
  2. Define the meaning of life and your purpose
  3. Your role model and why you choose the person
  4. Your humanitarian values to the society
  5. Your priorities in life
  6. What do you value in relationships
  7. Your concerns to this present world
  8. Are you a successful blogger and why you chosen this platform
  9. Whats your contribution for others
  10. Empathy or sympathy , which one you opt and why
  11. Self Introduction or self assessment

THANK YOU ALL FOR READING … PLEASE PARTICIPATE, INVITING ALL MY DEAR BLOGGERS 👏🙂🏆

Evlin #1

Based on a real life experience..I’m still able to listen her words.

CHAPTER 1 – EVLIN

Evlin is alone now, complete loneliness.Her husband filled the wardrobe with clothes, gifts and everything with wanted and unwanted things. He tries to make her happy, he felts all those will brings smile to his wife’s face.Everything in that house seems unfamiliar to her. Even the way her husband asks permission to their parents, if she wants to go to her house.They used to sleep at late night and Evlin needs to wake up morning. If she slept at 4 am also she needs to wake up before 7 am morning.Evlin is not good at cooking actually she don’t know ABCD in cooking.But she tried her maximum to pick up everything, watched some youtube videos on cooking and started some cooking experiments.She accompanied her husband for cooking but the family considered the cooking only for girls. They added ” A girl is zero without a cooking knowledge, whatever she achieved in her life is nothing compared to cooking”.

Real life story continues….

-©️Athira Praveen

Expert

Learning is a continuous process
To be an expert to an extent

Expert in something only to an extent. However acquiring knowledge is a continuous process, can’t expertise each and everything but can gain maximum information and knowledge when we are here.Every day is a new phase of learning and rather than bookish knowledge,experience maketh a man expert.Don’t avoid books completely both theoretical and practical is needed. Knowledge – sharing have a key role for an expertise.

The Living word gives a life.

Obstacles makes me Stronger

For past two three weeks, I was so much disturbed even for simple things.I’m unabled to control my mind properly and deeply got irritated and it became a choas for others too.Later I shared it with one of my dearest colleague but from there also my mind won’t got satisfied.

I keep on asking with God why its happening and I found that there is no point for simply blaming the situations or people.Sometimes I really became helpless for certain times.People always desires to get some place in someones heart or else they always tries to get involved in some friends groups to avoid their loneliness.

I myself experienced loneliness still experiencing, it might be because of my way of life, my thoughts, my acts whatever it might be. But the fact is to become stronger I need to go through certain situations, certain distractions,certain loneliness,certain downs, certain disappointments…

Thank you for experience,without those experience I cant be myself !