For a better relationship

I grabbed all those points by my own personal positive and negative experience.I won’t say that mine is perfect, definitely there are many drawbacks not only for me for everyone in this world. A relationship became perfect once they avoid the rules and regulations and free up the minds.

LOVE COVER UP MULTITUDE OF SINS, NOTHING BEYOND LOVE. If true love is there, everything follows eventually.No special preparation needed, no need to be careful in your relationship, just open up everything to each other.

I would be glad, if you share some more points from your own experience.

1) Pay attention to your partner's opinions
2) Ask and share questions openly rather assumptions.
3) Be a supporter and motivator for each other.
4) Equality , avoid gender discrimination
5) Don't store any doubts, speak up openly
6) Use WE instead of I
7) Proper communications
8)Avoid misunderstanding through conversations
9) Apologize quickly
10)Take away ego, pride and Jealousy
11) Honor each other
12) While fighting,take initiative to resolve
13) Share your feelings and emotions
14) Share when you're feeling down
15)Avoid hidden thoughts instead open up thoroughly
16)Love each other the most
17)Reduce the expectations otherwise it will become an investment.
18) Avoid privacy conversation with others, discuss everything with eachother.
19) No boundaries
20) Frankness
21) Reduce formalities
22) Accept just the way he / she is ...and accept good suggestions for self development.
23) Compromise each other
24) Never pull anyone to your relationship.
25) Go for a walk, share the interests, outdoor activities and entertainments
26) Be good friends
27) Avoid inferiority and superiority complex
28) If your partner is ready to listen, never bring the fights in front of others.
29) Reduce arguments.
30) Spend more time with èach other.
31) Taking up responsibilities equally
32) Never split work for husband and wife.
33) Accept each ones weakness and compensate each other.
34) Maintain strong bond
35) Give confidence to each other, never discourage.
36) Share your bad thoughts, troubles everything.
37) Enjoy every love quarrels, small and beautiful moments of togetherness
38) Accept the mistakes and share with each other.
39) Discuss your memories, past, future,
ambitions, dreams, strength and weaknesses
40)Faith, trust and understanding- Love keeps no record of wrongs.


©️ Athira Aparna


			

Evlin # 5 – A real life experience

Part 5 – The END

As you all knew, Evlin is not staying with her husband now.She wants to live with her husband happily but can’t stay in that home anymore.She asked her husband to stay together in another home but he is not ready to leave that home and wants to stay with his parents.

He and his parents visited Evlin. Her husband asked only one question” Are you wiling to come and stay with us ” Both of them wants to talk each other but never happened on that time. Evlin tried her maximum to talk with her husband and he had some interest to talk with her and entered to Evlin’s house but on that moment , his mother forcefully pulled him back and without any hesitation, he returned . Evlin responded ” I’m not ready to stay at that home but I want you in my life”.

They left silently.

Evlin is not contacting him now since all her calls seems to be disturbance and quarrelsome.Now no phone calls,messages, no contacts..As per the opinion of his mother,she is a liar for them. But God is great, of course one day all the truth will come out.Where this life moving?

Why he is not willing to lead a life with her away from that home? Why he is not making any calls or messages to her?? Inspite of all facts for whom she is waiting now?? Does true love still exists ???

Evlin waits for him till death…

Will they meet again!

I guess most probably this maybe the last post related with Evlin. I wish both of them to lead a happily married life.

With lots of prayers
©️Athira Praveen 

Evlin # 4 _ A Villain

A real life experience of my dearest friend, with her permission…

Characters : Evlin and her husband

Scene 1

A real love story starts here after marriage.None can’t seperate them even now.A beginning of quarrelsome in the name of a Dog.The Dog was husband’s pet, inside the house with him. His wife never liked the dogs inside the house.She knew that its her husband’s pet so she adjusted maximum.Its something beyond her thoughts,since a single child with a dog from childhood, he considered the dog as a sister.All thoughts of her husband seems to be indifferent for the girl.A house full of dog’s hairs, in dresses, kitchen, plates,carpet, bedsheet everywhere.

Scene 2

The old dog became sick .All treated it like a kid now, full treatment and care. And very soon, the dog died.A bad day that ruins their relationship.For past few weeks, the girl suffered some health issues due to lack of sleep, bad foods and the behavior of her mother in law,

They took the dog inside the room and lied that body on a teapoy, and the whole family cried, kissing, hugging that wounded dead body.For her,when a pet dies they will put that body aside- outside the house, until the cremation..its wounded and its not right to keep a pet’s dead body inside the house scientifically, its harms human that too a whole night,water coming from the dog’s mouth, there was no place for the cremation so planned to call the muncipality, but their procedures was not acceptable for the family.They keeps the body on the teapoy, covered with a cloth.

Scene 3

The husband is very upset, the girl tried to consolidate.He visited the dog’s dead body for kissing, all thats not acceptable for her.Next day morning, there was no option for cremation of the body, they took that body to their hometown- it was around 5 hours journey. The girl was sick , she said no to that journey.Her husband and his dad was sad to leave her alone at home but they needed to do the cremation.

Scene 4

They reached back at evening, that night the girl was mentally depressed.She remembered a word her husband communicated last night ” Only that dog gave an unconditional love to him”.It made her sad, she asked about that to him.She realized that nothing more important to him than a dog.He said, it’s difficult to continue the relationship and so..She cried like anything inspite of her health issues.

Scene 5

Fights continued with one or another.She never allowed to buy a dog anymore.She witnessed her husband situation on that day.If it happens again, she don’t know what will happen next.For her nothing important that her husband.But very soon, he bought another one since he can’t live without a dog but can live without her wife.She is not with him now, never wished to see her, no conversations, no phone calls…

She left that home now.

She quoted “There is no space for me in that home, no value, no voice. I love my husband the most…I knew my husband too..But….

Who is playing in between?

Dear pet lovers,

It’s a true story. Its not against your love towards the pets, but after I heard this story from Evlin. I would like to add a point here, nothing beyond HUMAN LOVE.

She asked me ” When I’m going to see him again?”

©️Athira Praveen

The Liebster Award🎖

First of all, I would like to share my sincere gratitude to almighty who made me to start this blog. I also like to share my thanks to Soni’s thoughts https://sonibindaas571181659.wordpress.com/ one who nominated me for this award. I also welcome all of you to visit her blog.

Soni’s rapid fire round😊

1) At what time you love the most to write and why?

There is no particular time for me to write. I always wish to do 24*7 if possible.

2)When did you first start your writings?

If the question regarding with my blogging – it was on 10th March 2019 @ 6:28 PM. Apart from blogging I used to write from my schooling.

3)Do you love reading books? which are your fav books?

Yes, I loved reading but right now I’m little bit away from the habit. It’s difficult to point out books but still I will mention some from my memory – Pride and Prejudice, Jane Eyre, Macbeth, Malgudi days and so on…

4)Do you have any suggestions for other beginner bloggers?

Try to write from your heart than mind.

5)What was your aim when you were a kid and did it change with time or still same?

Becoming a good human being.I hope so

6)Whats your passion and why?

I loves everything I do and do everything I loves. I’m very much passionate to all things I do.

7)What are your tips for a good and fit health?

It’s completely depends upon each person body language and their standard of living. I suggest to eat homely food maximum or if its not possible prefer healthy foods and avoid junk foods. Drink water sufficiently, natural products for skin care routine,focus of hygiene,dancing / yoga / walking are the mantras for fitness. Based on the current situation- wash all vegetables with vinegar,salt and turmeric powder. Wash your hands with sanitizers after the public contacts, use masks : cover your nose and mouth together with mask, I noticed many covers their mouth only 🙂 Moreover try to avoid maximum public contacts now.

8)Do you advise for Gym or home workout?

I don’t prefer advise to anyone rather suggestions. It’s completely depends upon the personal choice of life style.

9)If you would not be a blogger, then what other activity you would have been into?

Now also I continue all my other activities along with my blogging, so if I would not be a blogger… I will continue others the same way.

10)Who do you get ideas to write posts?

My writings based on my faith, experience and surroundings. From myself.

11)Do you keep any expectations to be famous when writing something or just prefer to write your heart out and leave everything on others to judge??

I never wish to receive any rewards or recognition in my life, As I mentioned before, I write everything from my heart and never focused on judgement and I’m no one to judge anyone.In my entire writings, the post EVLIN was the one I felt to share it with everyone.I’m writings its for my friend.

I personally don’t wish to nominate any particular blog-mate instead I wish to nominate all my fellow bloggers together.

My Questions to all my fellow bloggers

  1. Rate your writings out of five and with reason
  2. Define the meaning of life and your purpose
  3. Your role model and why you choose the person
  4. Your humanitarian values to the society
  5. Your priorities in life
  6. What do you value in relationships
  7. Your concerns to this present world
  8. Are you a successful blogger and why you chosen this platform
  9. Whats your contribution for others
  10. Empathy or sympathy , which one you opt and why
  11. Self Introduction or self assessment

THANK YOU ALL FOR READING … PLEASE PARTICIPATE, INVITING ALL MY DEAR BLOGGERS 👏🙂🏆

Phase of Life #1

Value for a relationship – Without a space none will enter, giving space is an individual choice. The positions can’t be substituted: husband, mom, dad, grandmother, friends, mother- in – law, father-in law, brothers, sisters. When we talks on positions what about priorities..isn’t !!! its a reality that sometimes I felt. No replacements but of course priorities. No favoritism through words, heart keeps favorites.

-Athira Aparna